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Us Homeschool Moms seem to have these random myths or stigmas attached to us that I’d like to clear up.
Granted, I am almost into year three of my homeschool tenure, so I am not a guide by any means in this world. I remember a time when I put homeschoolers on a pedestal and also when I did the opposite to homeschooling families.
Now that I am part of the club I’m hoping to do my part and dispel some of the mistruths about us freaky-deaky homeschoolers!
Homeschool Myths and Facts
1. Not only do we educate our children, we also have our house all in order too.
Psyche! FAR from this. I mean our house isn’t TLC/A&E mentally unhealthy show fodder yet, but I am in no way a keeper of my home like one would think or like I dream to be. It’s crazy hard to take care of your house, cook, sew on a button or two, and take care of things when you are doing math in the dining/school room for two hours. I feel like a USA champion when I dump one trash bin!
Some might disagree with me on this. They would not be my close friends.
2. Homeschooling is idyllic and we are all Pinterest Princesses.
I keep telling myself: It is okay if I do not have a perfectly planned and executed project on a weekly basis. That is tomfoolery. That is not real life. While that is a great goal to shoot for, it is not necessary to my children’s education. For one, college. College (if this is the Lord’s plan) won’t be having craft/cooking/fun projects (or at least the core classes won’t).
So , while you might picture us all at home with lab coats, goggles, Erlenmeyer flasks, and smiles whilst splitting atoms, just know that is most likely not the norm round these parts.
A good thing to incorporate? Have the students set up their own projects and give you a list of supplies (or better yet go “shopping” around the house) for a project they have read about and would like to incorporate.
Boom! Planning AND project skills learned!
3. We are home alone with books and tin foil hats and zero friends.
HomeschoolSuperFreak.com is like a homeschool momma’s BFF. Jackie, of said website, wrote a great h’school companion book called It’s Homeschooling, Not Solitary Confinement: Busting the Myths, Misconceptions, and Misinformation About Homeschooling which covers so much about the whole world of Home Education — including one of the hot-button topics: socialization.
I think we’ve all collectively lamented enough already about how annoying it is to hear someone question your child’s socialization factor that we don’t quite hear this as much as we used to. But I still get comments. And it’s so silly. People just don’t know how insanely busy you can be with homeschooling coops, athletics, academic clubs/contests . . . ACKKK it’s so much sometimes!
And, at any of the above outings, tin foil hats are optional.
4. We are super judgy about your public and private schooling choices.
I sure hope there are not fellow homeschoolers out there that are begrudging you in support for your family’s schooling decisions. Not everyone can or should homeschool. It’s based on your kid AND/ OR your family’s needs/structure. Let’s all be cool and support each other. We are just trying to raise nice humans who do their best and put something back into the world.
Good grief, I do not have time to judge anyone. I’m over here trying to dump trash and feed people (see #1).
ALSO CHECK OUT : COMMON QUESTIONS HOMESCHOOLERS GET ASKED
5. We are all advanced degreed elitists teaching our kids about Plutarch and Quantum Physics using only Haikus.
I watered a fake plant for a year in college where I earned my undergrad in business and graduated “Thank Tha Laude.” I want to blame my GPA on IBS, but that would be crappy of me. (I’m not the class contributor.)
6. We are all part of some religious cult.
No, I already have enough on my schedule and don’t have time for the cult meetings (see #3) and . . . . just no! I gave up on dance for my kid because of the pressure of putting her hair in a bun on a regular basis!
There are secular and non-secular homeschooling groups. The face of homeschooling is . . .. well there just isn’t one face to fit. It’s so diverse and I love that.
7. Our kids are all weirdos.
Just the cool ones! Sure, you run into a few, um, different people out there at the Homeschool Store and whatnot, but don’t you also see those types at public and private school, too?
(Weirdos are awesome, by the way.)
8. We are on some sort of Olympic Athletic Quest and can’t do the scheduling of 8-3 school.
Some people are and God bless their journey! Not us. We just had not so great public and private school experiences – the last institution we were at closed after being open a year- and just felt God leading us to homeschool.
But the freedom you get with homeschooling does help an athlete with a heavy practice schedule out nicely!
9. We aren’t really teaching them because some of us are not certified teachers.
This one really has hurt potential. As a good friend of mine once helped me understand: I was my child’s first teacher. I taught her how to tie her shoes, go potty, and to use the Golden Rule. Even if she did go to school outside of the home, I’d still be teaching her stuff when she got home and in some cases, un-teaching her some not so great habits, or just diving further into subjects that interest her.
We are all homeschooling in some way whether we realize it or not.
I can always improve, but you bet your bottom dollar that I am ding, dang, dong committed to learning to teach her how to learn and do her best as a student. It is my prayer that my girls (I have a little one who is not really ready for school quite yet) have a love of learning that is not squelched.
ALSO CHECK OUT : REQUIREMENTS FOR HOMESCHOOLING YOUR CHILD
10. We have more patience or are better at momming than you because we homeschool.
NO WAY is this truth! I hear people put us in this shadow box of “great mom because you homeschool” and I cannot disagree more. I am just doing what the Lord has called me to do. I try to work as if unto the Lord. He is my boss. I actually have hardly any patience and this has been one long lesson in grace for me. I am not any better and not any worse than any other mom out there- I promise!
There you have it! I hope this sheds light on our world of homeschool and maybe I taught you a few things about us — mainly that we are just like you in that we all just want the best for our kids. Whatever education system you can find that meets your kids’ needs best at the moment, then go ahead on with your bad self!
Gillian homeschools her two daughters and focuses on the funny in life through imperfection over at her family’s blog: www.fournicholstwocents.com.
Grateful for Jesus and deodorant, she loves talking to anyone about the correct meat to cheese ratio in tacos.