I’ve been talking to some people. Namely? Other moms. And, in that time I have not talked to one mom (NOT ONE) who has felt like she’s rocking the balanced life.
And, I’m vowing to get to the bottom of it.
Homeschooling is hard and challenging.
Add to that the “momming” part and, well, we’re pretty much zombies. (Forgetaboutit if you work, too . . .)
So each time I have this discussion with another mom I follow-up with:
“Why are all of us moms so tired and overwhelmed?”
In the months that I’ve been exploring this topic, not one of us has come up with a pinpointed answer (let alone a solution). We’re juggling too much. We’re not getting enough sleep
because we’re spending late nights researching curricula. Our houses are a mess, but we don’t have time to keep them clean and organized. We want to eat healthy, but the last thing we have the energy to do is to make a homemade meal after a long, busy day.
(Or, you can insert one (or 12) of your own reasons here.)
Since I vow to not go through another entire year feeling like this, I’ve been researching some clutter, chaos, and calming solutions. I thought I’d share what I’ve learned in case any of these help you dig out from that pile of laundry, get back on the right track, and spend less time feeling overwhelmed.
How to be Stress Free and Happy for a More Successful Homeschooling Journey
Have you ever noticed how some other countries or cultures just seem to get it when it comes to living and loving life and creating an almost stress free existence? (If you’ve ever tried to shop in a boutique in Italy after lunch when everything closes down for riposo (rest time), you understand. Or Spain. Siesta. Or any other Mediterranean and Southern European country.)
Here are some ways of thinking from other countries/cultures or “systems” that may help you transition from your chaotic, overwhelmed state to a better way of being.
If you’re overwhelmed or feeling homeschool burnout or depression, try incorporating one of these before making any major decisions.
1. About Hygge
Hygge (pronounced hue-gah , but you’ll also see hoo-gah depending on which website you’re reading) is a Danish word that basically boils down to living in the moment. (There is no English equivalent of the word.)
According to HyggeHouse.com, hygge is:
“A Danish word used when acknowledging a feeling or moment, whether alone or with friends, at home or out, ordinary or extraordinary as cosy, charming or special…Hygge literally only requires a conscious appreciation, a certain slowness, and the ability to not just be present – but recognize and enjoy the present. That’s why so many people distill ‘hygge’ down to being a ‘feeling’ – because if you don’t feel hygge, you probably aren’t using the word right.”
Wow. Be present and enjoy it. That sounds awesome, right? (Especially in a world of always being connected.)
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How to Hygge
Apparently, you can’t really do hygge, just you be hygge. (It all sounds very 60s flower child, I know, but stay with it.) It really is as simple as enjoying moments over cherishing possessions — unplugging and celebrating experiences and cherishing relationships. It also means enjoying the little things in life. (If you want that piece of chocolate cake, don’t deprive yourself! Have it and enjoy it!)
Learn how to hygge better with these books:
2. About Lagom
Lagom (lah-gohm) is a Swedish word that means “just the right amount,” or not too little and not too much. Lagom doesn’t believe in living life to extremes (like working too much or not enough). Instead, Lagom wants you to live your life in the middle.
It’s about creating balance.
Experts have said that lagom is the reason that Sweden consistently ranks high on both productivity and happiness.
How to Lagom
Doing more with less, taking frequent breaks, creating manageable To-Do lists, and reprioritizing what matters most (while letting go of the rest) are all elements of lagom.
Learn how to lagom better with these books:
3. About Ikigai
Quick, answer this question: What’s the reason that you get up in the morning?
Ikigai (ee-kee-gah-ee) is “a Japanese concept that means ‘a reason for being.'” It’s living life to its fullest while also realizing what you’re supposed to be doing. And, since feeling uneasy with yourself and your “purpose” can be unsettling, practicing ikigai can help sort out some of that chaos in your life.
It is the perfect Venn diagram of finding yourself and purpose in life.
How to Ikigai
According to WeForum.org, you can start the ikigai process with four questions:
What do you love?
What are you good at?
What does the world need from you?
What can you get paid for?
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4. About Lykke
Lykke (luu-kah) is the Danish word for “happiness” or “good fortune.” It is like hygge, but this movement is a journey toward global happiness according to several areas in life.
How to Lykke
Lykke focuses on creating happiness in six major life categories:
Learn how to lykke better with this book:
5. About Gökotta
Gökotta (zyohh-koh-tah) is a Swedish concept that means “listen to the morning birdsong.” Although there is no English word equivalent, it basically boils down to getting up early just to go out and listen to the birds sing.
Gökotta stems from the mentality that spending time in nature boosts mental and physical wellbeing. Just by simply appreciating the little things, it can make you happier, more peaceful, and more energetic.
How to Gökotta
Build nature time into your day and the family’s homeschooling day. Get out just to be out!
Learn how to Gökotta better with these books:
Fika (fee-ka) is a Swedish (seeing a theme here?) word that means a coffee break. However, it’s not just a coffee break. Instead, it’s about slowing down and enjoying the good things in life–where you stop and savor the moment.
From Fika: The Art of The Swedish Coffee Break “Functioning as both a verb and a noun, the concept of fika is simple. It is the moment that you take a break, often with a cup of coffee, but alternatively with tea, and find a baked good to pair with it. You can do it alone, you can do it with friends. You can do it at home, in a park or at work. But the essential thing is that you do it, that you make time to take a break: that’s what fika is all about.”
How to Fika
TheKitchn.com states, “As long as you are brewing a good cup of coffee (or tea as the case may be), eating something good with it, and taking some time to take a break and enjoy the moment, you’re having a fika.”
Build fika into your homeschooling day be unplugging, gathering around, enjoying a cup of coffee or tea (or hot cocoa . . . or whatever you thing is) and just enjoy being together. Remember, it doesn’t have to be at home! You can fika at a park or cafe, too!
Learn how to fika better with these books:
Are you following any of these methods — or another one? If so, I’d love to hear how it’s working for you in the comments!